The Phone Courtesan

A Mask Allows the Truth
September 7, 2009, 9:13 am
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Man is least himself when he talks in his own person.                                     
Give him a mask, and he will tell you the truth. ~~~ Oscar Wilde

I look forward to being the keeper of the truths you share with me. I have said many, many times . . . the phone is our mask. A mask can take many shapes.

Trust me.

The Sexiness of Familiarity
September 6, 2009, 9:43 am
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There is a comfort in familiarity. We know this to be true in many areas of our lives. We are creatures of habit. We can wrap ourselves up in a blanket of security through our rituals we have come to count on. Those rituals are practiced in our daily routines, our surroundings, our religious life, our commitments we give to organizations that we hold near and dear to our hearts and passions etc.

It can be that way in our sex lives. That is another ritual we humans love to practice. The ritual of lovemaking. Lovemaking is a comfort, and it brings us comfort. Now, it can be said that the problem with all rituals we practice, is that we sometimes tend to do it, just because we always have, out of habit. Lovemaking is the same. We all want to make love, have sex, enjoy the other body. Our DNA has long been programed with that drive, to keep the species going. We now have the luxury of making love for our own pleasures and reasons, not simply because we need to populate the earth. Yet, as we grow older we may find our lovemaking can become very ‘routine’. While we crave the stability of routine, that is the very thing that can make our lives feel boring, feel like we are in a rut. Our human nature while wanting the comfort of the routine, fights against it. Lots of times, want to change it up, find and feel something new and different. We are reasoning creatures, and our lives become full of all the ‘what ifs’, that we have yet to fulfill. That said, not all routine is all bad, unless we become complacent, and let the routine become us. Then we may not appreciate what is right in front of us.

There is a wonderful familiarity of loving your partner, and being in love with your partner. You want so badly for ‘their’ familiar touch on your skin. They know you. They know your body, they know where to touch you, and they know when. They know when to pull back, when to be stronger, harder, softer. They know how to hold you. Your bodies naturally know how to fit together.

When you know the feeling of wanting to go home, is in their arms and to be next to their body, then familiarity becomes the sexiest feeling I know.