The Phone Courtesan

May of course means Masturbation Month
May 18, 2015, 10:59 am
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My oh my it has been far too long since I have unleashed on my own blog. Is it because I am getting older, or damn, is time that fleeting?

May is Masturbation Month.

I have been fortunate to work in the sex and sexy world for over 14 years. As the years have moved on, so have I and my gentleman. I have enjoyed many of you since the beginning of my sex career. Frankly, even as new gentleman have joined with me, they are of the older more mature persuasion. Which if you know me that is what I want, as that is what I myself am. I find it is a good match together. Let me take this opportunity here to let you know that is one of the many reasons I do not do web cams. Quit asking me to. So many people out there do. Go find them.

I will be blunt. Gee, what a surprise, right? 🙂 You go through changes, as do I. It has been interesting to witness not only in my body, but to observe the sexual aging process that all of us go through. Some libidos haven’t changed, while some have even increased. Some libidos, have gone way down. Your body simply does not respond any more as your brain is wanting it to. It is not indicative of your desires changing, just your bodies lack of reaction to those desires. It is frustrating and can be confusing. I am not telling you anything you don’t know.  But, perhaps it may be a time where we can slow down, breathe deeply and enjoy the sensuousness of the moment. We are older. Our family needs, stresses and responsibilities have changed, and will affect us as well. In some ways it sucks getting older. 🙂  In some ways I embrace it. This getting older crap has meant I will have a more profound experience with my sex life. If it is less often, it is more important to me to make those fewer moments count. To stop and feel the care, the intimacy, the moment for what it is. Yes, to literally stop and smell the roses. It is not just the fuck, bump and grind. All though that is nice too.  It is the moment at hand that matters. It is the touch, the words, the visuals I can paint for me, or my partner. We may find that we need to be more active and participate in different ways we had not before.

Masturbation month. Your own private touch is the time that you allow yourself to slowly feel arousal. Feel it, own it, and let it subside. Remember, arousal is not an invitation to hurry and just cum. Let the arousal you created slip away. Then allow it to rear it’s head again, later that day or the next day. Arousal is an erotic and beautiful journey to allow your body to feel and sweetly ache. Try building anticipation and letting it simmer in you. Tease yourself. Let that arousal build in you. Play with your body. Listen to your body. Listen to your erection. Listen to your cock.

And, I will look forward to enjoying you.

Erections are an expression
January 31, 2008, 1:03 pm
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This beautiful statement was sent to me during an email conversation with one of my men. However, it was a couple of days later, that some interesting thoughts about erections started to seep through my brain. No laughing out loud please. : ) And yes, it put erections on my mind even more so than on my regular days and nights. I will be the first to admit that erections do play a very large part of my life, as happily most of my men will acquire one through our conversations. Please note though, that not all of my men do have erections with me, nor are they meant to. Every single conversation goes down its own path, and each man is so very different and so unique.

Erections are an expression . . . I find erections fascinating. I realize that when men read this, you most likely have been enjoying your erections for years. As a woman, I love the process of making that part of your body respond to me. I love the interplay of your erection with me, and your allowing my guidance to direct your erection. Your erection is not only an expression, but a very clear reaction of my touch on you. How could a woman not revel in that sweet power she holds over that beautiful cock, and you? She can literally hold her power over you right in the palm of her hand . . . or in her mouth . . . or with her breasts . . . or in her pussy . . . or in her ass . . . as the case may be. But then, there is this venue. It allows me a very special way to hold your cock. By capturing your mind, I can capture your cock. In reality, the lesson we do learn as we get older and wiser is just how much our minds are involved in every aspect of our physical sex life.

There are so many paths I get to take you down to gain that erection. There are so many sweet ways to make your cock ache. I love being a woman. I look at your erection not only as your expression, but also as your gift to me. Your gift is your physical response to me. It is full to the brim of how you feel, how you desire, how you need, and how you throb. The reward I receive from you, is not just the knowledge that I can make you hard and I can make you cum. My excitement, is that your expression came from a new and deeper place in you, that is now mine. The power that women have over erections is mind boggling.

You give me the power to guide that erection. I think your expressions are beautiful.

Pleasure Delayed, is Pleasure Enhanced

Story tellers know this to be true. There is a master story teller who comes to my mind. One who has captivated me since my childhood. He is so subtle about weaving the suspense around you. You listen, and you watch. You look for clues. You know his style. As each of his stories unfolds before you, he has all the answers right there. The clues are begging for you to discover them and feel the direction he is leading you in. There are the predictable moments, during which you feel secure and even have a sense of satisfaction in yourself, because you now think you have it figured out. You see the layout, you see his plan. But then, an unfamiliar even scary change of events takes place. It is a new twist. He suddenly takes you down a different path. It is unfamiliar territory to the story, but it is exciting and arousing. You begin to realize this is not going to be your typical ‘who done it’ movie. You need to pay better attention. You find his unveiling of human behavior looking right through you. There are some behaviors you recognize and embrace. There are some behaviors you know you would never participate in. And then there is that murky area of human behavior.

His work thrills me. It is not the “BOO” jump out at you, kind of scare. He builds a slow, questioning kind of fear that stirs all of the fears and worries we bury deep inside of us. He engages me. He makes me think. He makes me wonder. Mostly, he allows for my participation. I love his mind. He had a saying that explains his philosophy, beautifully.

“There is no terror in the bang. Only in the anticipation of it.” ~ Alfred Hitchcock

And now with you, it is that very philosophy I try to weave around us. We have all learned from early on, about the anticipations in life. We look forward to certain things, every day. In our time together, I want you to not only look forward to the obvious outcome that you and I will share, but I want you to truly ache with the anticipation. Through the ache there is great pleasure . . . and all though the pleasure is slowly and carefully delayed, you will learn that the pleasure is enhanced.

~ Pleasure delayed, is pleasure enhanced ~